Church…
After reading kKama67’s comment, “Church is actually fun. It’s a good social event where people are usually nice to each other.”, on Nuttz’s blog I decided to approach this subject. It’s one I never was going to since I feel the best way to ruin any friendship or bring tension to it is bring up religion or politics. If you have to watch kids to pass time you need a new church. You aren’t supposed to be people watching to pass the time by. A good church will have someone who’s speech on any topic will draw you in and make you want to not miss a word that’s said. It will have songs that make you want to participate instead of just faking it. I am glad you find your church so fun and entertaining though. It isn’t like that for all and not everyone finds it to be a “social event”.
I hated church. I went to a church where a good 80+% of the people were very well off for most of my childhood. I hated going to Sunday school. I hated our youth pastor. I hated how he would convince my mom that I should join their youth crap and that it would be good for me. I was shy and hated the uneasy feeling that I got around the kids my age. I was too young to be let into the adult groups where I felt more comfortable and they wouldn’t make any exceptions. What could be said in a Bible study that a child could not hear? What went on in the adult groups that would ban kids from joining? Unless they were really watching porn kids should be allowed to join. They would make fun of my clothes because I wore heels and dresses or skirts. I LIKE HEELS! I miss my heels. I miss my cute little strappy sandals in the spring and summer. /sigh I didn’t make fun of them for wearing preppy Gap and Old Navy clothes or Docs did I? No, that’s what they liked. They were snobby and wouldn’t say a word to me normally, but would at church... A bunch of freakin’ hypocrites the lot of them.
I used to argue with the youth pastor because he couldn’t fully explain questions I had on Christianity. He would quote scriptures, but that never answered why. Why is it wrong for two people who are fully committed to live together? Why is marriage so important? If you personally ask God to recognize your relationship without a wedding is that not enough? Does God demand that we pay a fee to the church, pastor and feed our friends and family before he will bless our relationship? Why? Why do people call God just and fair when that’s not who God is? Have you read the 10 Commandments or the Old Testament? I thought I was a persnickety person. Needless to say after so many questions of why and with so many arguments we just quit talking to each other. I was sick of his lame reasons that never answered “why” and I think he was just sick of me all together, which really is not very Christian like, but completely understandable. :)
Please don’t misunderstand me. I have no problem with people who are religious. Most would consider me religious since I do believe in God, Jesus, heaven, hell, etc. I just refuse to be connected to a set religion since I find them all flawed. I’d rather be a hypocrite, sleep in on Sunday and do all sorts of non-Christian things guilt free knowing I am not making a set religion look bad then do it and be tied to one. (Yeah it goes back to the whole “If you can’t do it perfectly or damn close don’t do it at all.) You’re supposed to be setting an example and I just suck at that sort of thing. I am not a good example maker. I’m easily paranoid, a gimp and a boarder line workaholic. Honestly if it wasn’t for my boyfriend I would work 7 days a week. He reminds me to enjoy my time off and to not forget my hobbies.
One of my cousin brothers recently converted into a Christian.. There was a huge uproar in the family. I wonder how will it be during Chinese New Year.. the other aunties were telling us not to get a boyfriend/girlfriend who are not Buddhist >.
» Nuttz on 2007-01-30 09:46:14
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